Relationships are an important part of our lives and can provide us with great happiness, satisfaction and peace. However, relationships can also be a source of anxiety, stress and frustration, especially when they are unhealthy or not meeting our needs. Taking steps to ensure that our relationships are healthy and beneficial can make all the difference in our mental health and overall wellbeing.
The need for human connection appears to be innate and the ability to form stable, loving relationships is learned through one’s early experiences with caregivers who reliably meet their infant’s needs for food, care, warmth, protection, stimulation and social contact. These early experiences establish deeply ingrained patterns of relating to others.
A healthy relationship is a two-way street. Both parties should give it their all and be respectful of each other’s boundaries, needs and desires. A healthy relationship is one in which people can discuss their differences openly, with honesty and without blame. It is a relationship that allows for change and growth. It is a relationship in which each person feels valued and respected, and is able to maintain their own sense of identity, self-esteem and independence.
Physical intimacy is an essential component of a happy, fulfilling relationship. Couples should spend time together doing activities they enjoy and work on keeping their physical intimacy alive. For example, they can cook or bake together, try a new sport, learn to dance, or simply sit and talk and hold hands. A few dates a month, or even an hour at the end of the day, can keep physical intimacy alive and is important for maintaining a healthy relationship.
Emotional intimacy is another important aspect of a healthy relationship. This involves sharing feelings of love, affection and trust. It can be as simple as holding each other, or as complex as a deep discussion of one’s thoughts and beliefs.
A good way to foster emotional intimacy is by listening to each other, and not interrupting when the other person is talking. Taking the time to really hear what the other person is saying and double checking that you understand them correctly can prevent miscommunication and misunderstandings that can lead to hurt and anger.
Intimate relationships require a high level of trust, which is built over time through the way people treat each other, and how well they can work as a team. If you are not comfortable with your partner’s behavior or they are constantly making you feel insecure, it is probably not a healthy relationship and should be terminated. If you are unsure if your relationship is healthy, consult a therapist for advice and support. A healthy relationship will be a source of fulfillment and happiness in your life, and will help you to lead a longer, healthier life.
